Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Marriage Under-Construction: The well of intimacy goes deep!

Wells have always fascinated me. A well feeds my home but it doesn't quite look like this picture.  While I was in Ethopia, some of the locals, a missionary and I loaded a truck to find the nearest well.  With empty containers in the back of the truck, we made our way through the bumpy terrain and found the well we would be pumping for water.  It didn't look like this picture either.  It looked like a teeter totter with a spout to retrieve the water.  We filled jug after jug.  Some of the locals filled their jugs, balanced them with a long stick and carried them home.  I appreciated the truck and so did my back.

I've seen a few wells like this picture that are no longer in use.  They fascinate me because I want to know how deep the well goes.  There are some wells that I can't even see the bottom.

This is a picture of marriage.  There is so much more to marriage that awaits us.  The well goes deep.  The question is, will I explore the depth of my marriage?

When was the last time you learned something new about your spouse?  Are you looking for something new?  Many times we become familiar and start to loose the passion in learning about who we married.  We think we have them figured out the first year of marriage.  It is highly unlikely that you know everything there is to know about your spouse.  Take some time and just look at them.  Listen to them.  Find out what stirs passion within them.  Find out something new that makes them smile.

When was the last time you said something intimate to your spouse?  I'm not talking about, "Hey baby, you interested?"  I mean, when was the last time your commented on her beauty or intelligence?  When have expressed something that you admire about him?

How about serving your spouse for a change?  When was the last time you did something for them that they normally do, like wash the car or sweep the floor?  That would get my motor running to see my wife washing the car in more ways than one!

How about touching your spouse in such a way that communicates that they are loved and appreciated?  Sex is a great way God designed for us to touch intimately.  Enjoy your spouse and allow them to enjoy you.

You will find that intimacy with your spouse goes deep.  There is so much more for you.  What are you waiting for?  In the words of Steven Curtis Chapman's song, "I'm diving in!"